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Love

"But I just like you as a friend..."

Heard that line before? (Maybe you've even said it to someone else.) Well, when someone says it to you, and you really, really like the person, it can be pretty hard to take. You are madly in love and he/she just want to keep the relationship as "Friends!"

"Gimme a break!" you say to yourself. "I'm 'friends' with my dog!"

Okay. Time for a reality check.

Shove your wounded ego into that corner for a minute and think about this.

Would you like to have a relationship with this person even if there is no romance? If you like them all that much, it sounds like a better deal than having no relationship at all, doesn't it?

Besides, there is actually a great opportunity here, believe it or not.

The most successful, long-term, romantic relationships, often start out as friendships.

This may not happen... but it might.

Here's what you should do:

• Get to know the Person. If you really get to know him/her, and can talk honestly about all kinds of stuff, you'll be in much better shape to build a relationship, whatever kind it turns out to be.

So don't be discouraged by:

"I really care about you, but just as a friend."

It doesn't necessarily mean that nothing good can ever happen between you. It just means that a different door is opening. And who knows where that may lead to...

Is "I just like you as a friend" a total brush off? Maybe your dream lover doesn't really like you at all, not just as a friend, not just as anything. To find out what you can do about it, check out these two options:

1. They don't like you much (even as a friend).
2. They really dislike you.

If you need more specific help,
write to Hey Terra!

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