Decision Making
Do you jump into things without thinking? Or are you the type who over
analyzes everything and has a really hard time making decisions? Maybe
you're somewhere in between or do a little of each from time to time. No
matter what your usual style of decision making is, there are ways to help
you figure out what's best for you in any situation!
Figure Out the Pros and Cons.
Because every situation has good and bad things about it, you need to
consider the whole picture! Say you've been offered two different
summer jobs - one at a fast food place and one at a summer day camp. You've
got to choose by the end of the week or you'll lose both jobs! What should
you do?
- Make a list of the pros and cons of each choice. Get a paper
and pen and make a real list of what's good and bad about each of the choices
you've got. There are no right or wrong answers here, this is totally your
opinion. If you were really trying to decide between the fast food place
and the camp you might start by writing:
Fast Food Place
|
PRO |
CON |
1. Free chocolate shakes |
1. Being inside all day |
2. |
2. |
Camp
|
PRO |
CON |
1. Working with kids |
1. Same work schedule every day |
2. |
2. |
Add as many items to the lists as you can, then...
- Compare the lists. What do you see? Are there obviously more
pros to one of the choices? Are there obviously more cons? Is this a surprise
to you? Don't just go by the number of items on each list... take a look
at how important each one is to you, too. One very important "pro"
might outweigh 4 insignificant "cons." For example, your boy/girl
friend already has a job at the sleep-away camp so the only way to see
them during the summer is accept the job (important pro), vs. you heard
the camp is kind of dusty (unimportant con).
- What if both choices are just about equal? Looks like you're
not any closer to making a decision than you were before you started writing.
In a case like this getting someone else's opinion might help. Ultimately,
this is your decision, so weigh everything then trust your intuition.
(That means you make your decision just because you have a better feeling
about one of the choices.)
- Choose! Often when you go through the process of comparing choices
and making your decision, it turns out to be exactly the right choice for
you at that moment in time. So don't be afraid! Choose. Remember even if
you don't always get what you expected, life
is for learning, so you will always get exactly the lessons you need.
Still Can't Decide?
Some people can't decide anything. They might look at their choices,
make lists to compare them then still be unable to choose. They are "stuck"
and cannot move forward in life. If you feel "stuck" don't worry.
There are things you can do to get unstuck!
- Be tough with yourself. Tell yourself that you only have one
day to make up your mind. Think about the decision as much as you want
for that day. At the end of the day you might feel like you still can't
decide but you've promised yourself that you would so you've got to do
it. It might help talk to someone you know who can listen without telling
you what they think you should do. It's okay to ask them what they would
do, but you still have to make the decision yourself. And you can do it.
Besides, what's the worst thing that can happen? You make the "wrong"
decision! Then what?
- If your decision turns out to be "wrong" for you.
This happens to everyone once in a while. Sometimes it's no big deal (at
a restaurant you chose the chicken instead of the pasta and you didn't
like it). Sometimes it is a big deal (you chose to go out for cross
country instead of swimming and you had a totally horrendous season). Whatever
it is, think of it as a learning experience rather than a screw up. Then
figure out how to get out of the situation in a responsible way! Before
you do anything, especially before you just say "FORGET IT!"
look at the consequences. What will happen if you do this? What will happen
if you do that? As long as you yourself take care of business by talking
to someone who can help you (not just someone to complain to), you have
a better chance of changing the situation so that it works better for you
and any other people involved.
Heavier Decisions
Some decisions you make are way more important than others. Like whether
to have sex or not with a certain person. Or if you should try a certain
drug. Or whether to take a ride with a driver who just had a beer. In cases
like these, your decision could possibly impact your entire life. That's
why this kind of decision making requires a different kind of soul searching.
- What are the risks? What might you gain? For situations like
these you need to figure out what you are risking and what you might
gain. For example, if you are considering having sex, the possibility
of pregnancy,
STDs
(Sexually Transmitted Diseases), and even AIDS
are definite risks. On the other hand, you might gain a new
level of intimacy with your partner, and a new sense of maturity about
yourself. You also might gain a bad reputation.... Get the point? You have
to stop and figure this stuff out before you jump into anything important
and life altering!
- How could this decision impact your life in the future. Imagine
you've made your decision, now picture yourself living with that decision
next week. Next month. Next year. In 5 years. Do you see it making a difference.
Are you comfortable with the difference it made?
- Talk to someone you trust. It can really help you sort things
out to talk to a friend or two before you make up your mind. Sometimes
an older brother or sister can add some insight and help you decide what
is best for you!
- No set of rules that applies to everyone. We all mature at different
rates and can't judge ourselves by anyone else's standards. What was good
for your mother may be no good for you! What didn't work for your brother
might work for you.
- It all comes down to personal
values. Everybody has their own set and you need to stay in touch with
who you are, what you believe in, and want for yourself as you go through
life.
Good luck with your decision and if you need
help write to Hey
Terra!
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