Terra's Past Letters
Dieting and Eating Disorders:
Hey Terra,I know that I need to lose 10-15 pounds because I'm 5'3 and weigh about 130-135. I think that is too high. All my family members say that I'm a little overweight, and I am embarrassed every time they talk to me about it... So Please help me. And maybe I don't need to lose that much but, I still need to lose some.
Your family is not being helpful at all and I'd suggest that you talk to your parents and let them know that you don't appreciate their remarks about your weight. Tell them that their comments are HURTFUL to you. This is not a good way to show that they love you. Hopefully they will get the message and let your other "family members" know that they need to stop this because it's not okay.
Has a doctor ever told you that 130-135 is "too high" for your height and body type? A person's ideal weight depends on a lot of things that are particular to that individual.
Weight is a health issue. It has nothing to do with trying to get yourself to look like some model or movie actress. That's a load of crap and I sure hope you don't buy into it. Too many girls fall into that trap and end up forever hating who they are because they don't feel thin enough or "perfect" enough. Some become anorexic, bulimic or compulsive overeaters and, in case you didn't know, eating disorders can kill you. Check out these interviews I did with teen girls:
If you exercise (because your heart and muscles need it and it's good for your spirit, your mood and your brain) AND you eat healthy foods when you're hungry and you stay away from junk food, you'll be doing yourself a huge favor. Most people who are truly overweight (and I don't believe you fall into that category) have gotten that way because they use food as a drug. (I'm serious!) Many are hurting inside because of some terrible past wound. Instead of dealing with the sadness or anger or hurt in a productive, direct way, those people "comfort" themselves with lots and lots of food. They may feel good while they are eating and numbing the uncomfortable feelings from the past, but the good feelings don't last long. Besides, overeating will endanger their health terribly and they'll end up feeling more and more miserable about themselves.
You need to know that there's a huge difference between your self-image (how you feel about yourself as a unique, goodhearted person with many talents, abilities to share and goals and dreams to accomplish) and your body-image (your perception of how you look). If you feel pretty good about the kind of person you are but then you start buying into all the negative messages you get about your body, you run the risk of starting to feel like you aren't such a good person because you don't have a "good" body. This is another dangerous trap that millions of teen girls and women fall into.
So, instead of asking me or anyone else for "tips" on how to lose weight or going on some diet which will never work because diets DON'T work, here's what you can do to change what's going on here:.
Once you make a decision to live the life you want, the number on the bathroom scale become totally insignificant.
Does this makes sense to you?
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