Terra's Past Letters
Hey Terra,I feel like "Enough", who wrote to you about her mother, and I have the same mother.
She constantly is yelling and complaining about me and my father. Yet when we tell her about something she does that annoys us she says, "That's right, I'm the bad guy." I honestly feel as if I don't even want to look at her. All she does is complain! Then, when I complain, she tells me to stop, that all this pessimism is making her mad! But my father! He annoys me too! Every little thing I say or do is turned into something worse then it really is!
They both make me SOOO angry! They don't respect me and I want out, but I'm 11. What do I do?
When I was your age I think I had the same mother too! So I understand completely how this feels. Nobody enjoys "yelling and complaining." And being around it is never fun.
You sound like a very intelligent, self-aware young woman. As much as you might "want out," you're 11, so the reality of this situation is that you aren't leaving any time soon. What can you do?
Well, I suggest you ask yourself, "What do I want?" What's the goal, for you, in this situation?
Is it "I want my parents to respect me."
Think about what it is you want and then after you have stated a goal, ask yourself this question: "Is that [the goal you stated] actually something that I can control or change or make happen?"
When it comes to what other people say, think, feel, or do... you get ZERO power. Absolutely zippo. On the other hand, when it comes to your own choices, you have 100% control. Ahhhhh... So maybe there's a solution in here.
Maybe your goal in this situation might be: "I want my mother and father's behavior to NOT BOTHER ME so much." Do you have any control over that goal? You sure do!
What would it take for you not to get your buttons pushed... Not to get SOOOO angry?
Think about it.
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