Terra's Past Letters

Loving

Dear Loving,

How do you get to know anybody? How do you become friends with someone? Usually you start by talking to them, asking questions, LISTENING... And finding out what (if anything) you two have in common.

Too many people (teens and adults) want to jump right into the Boyfriend/Girlfriend Zone and all the great romantic stuff that comes with it without really getting to know the other person at all! Sorry, but that just seems crazy to me. I mean, without taking the time to get to know the other person you can't know him or her as a person. So then what? You've got a make--out buddy who is pretty much a stranger. Not a good idea.

Bottom line, it takes time to grow a friendship so that a crush has a chance of becoming more to you than a fantasy. Are you willing to put in the time?