Terra's Past Letters

Teddy Bear

Dear Teddy Bear,

Before you decide whether to end your friendship, how about telling your best friend what you told me? Shouldn't you have honesty in a friendship? Shouldn't you be able to say: "I really care about our friendship and I want to make it stronger. I want to work on problems when they come up so that bad feelings don't get so big they make us not want to spend time together. It makes me feel smothered (or whatever) when we're with a bunch of people and you seem upset when I talk to them and not just to you. I'd like to talk about that."

Then see what she says. And please don't say that you can't tell her the truth because it will "hurt her feelings." (I hear that a lot.) If it's your intention to make the friendship stronger, then "clearing the air" is very important. If you keep quiet about this you're going to end up losing your best friend.