Terra's Past Letters

Just Thinking

Dear Just Thinking,

I'm going to assume that you've talked to him about this. You've told him how his behavior makes you feel? Right?

It's interesting because jealous people are obviously insecure (often because of past hurts and abandonments). They are so sure their partner is going to cheat on them or leave, that they are constantly looking for warning signs. Your bf is trying to keep you close to him but instead, because of his continuous lack of trust, he is, in fact, creating distance between you. Not good.

The only way you can work things out is for him to recognize that he's got a problem and, if possible, for you to work on it together, with a counselor. If that's not an option and talking to him doesn't change things, then I'd suggest you decide how important it is for you to be with someone who trusts you and feels secure enough in himself to be able to see the value of the love you are giving him. If that's important to you, and you aren't getting it with your bf, you may have to look elsewhere.

I hope this helps.