Terra's Past Letters

Sad Girl

Dear Sad Girl,

A healthy relationship (which is the only kind worth having) is based on two-way respect, trust, honesty, and open communication. That's not what's going on with you and this guy, and I'm proud of you for realizing that you deserve better. When a relationship is like an "addiction" that's another red flag signal that something is not right. When someone is "addicted" to a drug or a behavior, things have gotten out of control. In this case, you need to recognize those needy feelings that come up for you right before you start feeling like you want a "fix" (a contact with your ex). When you can recognize the warning signs and tell a support person (like your mom) what you're feeling, she can help you stay strong and stay away from him. By becoming more "in control" of the choices you make, you'll start feeling better about yourself and your ability to make healthy choices without that extra support.

Good luck!